Shared a coffee with a friend the other day. She told me “I planned to see this old lady before Christmas but put if off. Now I hear she is too sick too see me and will die, perhaps in days.” As I heard her I reflected on my father dying only some years back and that my cousin also had planned to come for a visit for several years but had put that visit off too. And then it also became too late. Both women were sad and filled with self-remorse for putting their visit off. Perhaps a feeling from which they both will have a hard time to recover.
Of course we all live stressful lives with many things we need to accomplish and achieve, some of which even contradict each other. Living today is not easy. Availability 24/7, careers, children’s activities and many more tasks that we feel obligated to manage. Sometimes we feel that we cannot even manage to have good relations within the small circle consisting of your spouse and your own children. Anybody outside the circle is not prioritized.
Then there is “procrastination“. The tendency to put off things to another day. An increasing problem as stressed people often get paralysed or forget stuff. It has become easier to procrastinate and to blame it on the World.
But what will happen if you procrastinate?
If you put off doing certain tasks not much grave might happen. If you put off the laundry a couple of days you might run out of underwear or are forced to walk around in dirty clothes or naked. No big deal, but you might be caught by the police.
If you procrastinate economy related stuff it might get trickier still. If you don’t do your job you might stand one day without one. If you don’t pay the rent for your apartment something similar will happen. So procrastination is not ideal.
But what is the result if you procrastinate in relation to your loved ones, your friends or relatives? As I mentioned above there is a huge risk involved when you procrastinate your relations – a day can come when there is no turning back. Death might happen to anyone of us at any moment. By accident, disease or violence. Unsaid words, meetings that never took place and love not shown can all of a sudden become a mission impossible – leaving us with only “I should have….”
All this of course leads up to the inevitable conclusion – you can procrastinate a whole lot and just risk being naked, jobless, homeless or in jail! Fine. Then you can get a new job, a new home and be released.
But you cannot put off people – the stakes are far too high for you to risk losing. You cannot gamble with people. A seance is not the same as an IRL meeting. You cannot turn back time.